Tips for Beginners
Those that are interested in BDSM should start out slow. They should only try a scene after speaking with their partner and making sure that they are both in the mood. If one is not in the mood it should be put off to another day. This should not be tried with strangers as most of the acts are based on communication and trust. BDSM has nothing to do with a person’s reality. Their daily life and this sex act should be kept separate.
This is not the time to punish a partner for the things that they have done wrong. That should be saved for the real world. A couple needs to be prepared just in case of an emergency. There should be some supplies such as a First Aid kit that are kept close by. It is helpful if they know CPR just in case. There should be a silent alarm used. A couple may not want the world to know about their kinky sex life but someone should know. They should tell a good friend where they will be and who they will be playing with. The couple should also agree on a safe word to notify the other person if they need to stop. Scenes should be planned out ahead of time. Nothing should be a last minute decision. This will allow the couple to agree on the type of play, any limits, and get all the proper sex toys that are going to be needed. This way they can be well prepared for a safe and a fun time. The dominate person should check in with their submissive partner during the session. They should check on them several times to make sure they are okay. A good way to check in with a partner is to squeeze their hand. If they squeeze back then they are basically all right. When in doubt check on the other person to make sure they are okay with everything that is going on. When selecting sex toys avoid points and sharp edges. This can lead to more pain then pleasure. A couple of should start off slowly. The one to ten techniques is often used. When a person is being spanked they start off lightly as a one. The power gradually increased until it reaches a ten. This will allow the couple to ease into it and enjoy the spanking. When whipping the body there are some places that are better than other. The buttocks and the upper back are meatier and while they may be a little painful they will be fine. Do not hit the other person in the liver as this will cause intense pain and will take their breath away. Avoid hitting in the genitals as this can be very painful. When the couple is interested in piercing they should use the services of a professional body piercer. The piecing will be done in a clear environment with new needles. This will greatly reduce the chance of developing an infection. Blindfolds make a person vulnerable. It should not be done the first time a couple is engaging in BDSM. If a couple is into bondage they can start out being tied up or gagged. Once the couple gets used to bondage and if they both liked it then the blindfold can be used. Never leave a person alone during this play even for a second. Make sure they are untied before moving away from them. There are special scissors that should be kept close by. Paramedic scissors can be used if a person is tired up too tightly and the ropes are not coming off. Always keep the key to the handcuffs in a safe place. This will save an embarrassing explanation if professions need to be called in for the removal.